Depression -Major Depressive Response

Depression- The most underrated and misunderstood emotional disorder

I would never have understood what depression means if I had not been through it and I am glad I went through it so I now understand when my people go through it. It is so easy to blame people than to fight and find out what actually the problem is. Since I have been through it and so many of my known have been through it,  I know how it feels inside . Its a feeling which is unexplainable and only the person who has been through can understand it. Today I write this article to spread a word of awareness to people who think that its a mental disorder. Depression is not a mental disorder. People who go through this depression are the most lovable people in this world, they are a blessing to today's world where everyone is losing their sense as humans. They are the people who think so much, they love so deep, they care so deep, they want to show up despite giving up on their own dreams for the sake of their loved ones and when no one understands them, supports them, they end up being depressed.

Depression is a feeling where you feel you are not loved, you do not have a purpose to live, you are worthless and you are a burden to this world. Can you imagine the amount of agony the person must be going through when thinking so deep that he/she questions his/her existence in this world? The problem is not that you don't understand, the problem is that you don't want to understand it. Yes, pause for a minute, read that statement again and think about it. Do you think you know everything in this world and that what your loved one is going through is just a drama or mental illness?  The other day when someone labelled my loved one undergoing depression as Mental, I was devastated. How could you say that?

As long as that person was good and serving you well, he/she was good and when she was going through her difficult times you label her as mental and abandon them. My heart pains seeing that more and more women in our society go through this and what more worse then she not getting support from either  in laws or parents or anyone. The in laws complain her parents to take care of their daughter that she is not performing her duties and the parents start seeing her as a load  because they thought their duties against their daughter was done as soon as married and no more tensions.

Some of the most disgusting statements I hear for people undergoing through depression are
 " You have everything that a person dreams for, you are not valuing it"
" You are just making an issue out of nothing "
" You are making excuses to not work- do household work"
" You have money, you have a happy family, you have a home, you have kids, you are much better than other people, what more do you need"  etc. etc.

Well, for your kind information the depress feeling has nothing to do with all these. Do you know Deepika Padukone, the famous actress has been through it as well herself. Do you think she was doing all this drama? she has everything to be happy for as per the society. Then why did she go through it ?
 Why do you think Lord Budha abandon home and go away? He had everything of this world, a beautiful and loving queen, family, palace, luxury etc. I am sure if he lived in today's world, all the people would have judged him as well saying he is just creating a drama out of nothing.

Every human being on this earth is born unique and has a different purpose. What looks achievement to you , might not look to other. We are all souls experiencing this world in this physical form. Don't label the physical achievements to qualify one to be happy . We girls and women also have dreams and want to achieve them. Its perfectly okay to not understand what our loved ones go through, but you know what " Love in itself means standing for them even if you don't understand what they go through" .

Depression can be healed by finding out the reason of it and then taking appropriate actions towards it. It needs a lot of patience and faith and if you are not able to do that for your loved ones, you don't deserve them.

I would like to end this article with a note that people undergoing though depression need healing and Love is the best healer. Be with them, listen to them, support them, love them, be compassionate to them . Don't abandon them.